tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34442394883183481862024-03-19T17:54:06.587+05:30Journey to motherhood - My IVF storyMy IVF journey. Road to the land of IUI, IVF, fertlity talks!Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-21707216388747451932013-12-01T15:42:00.001+05:302013-12-01T15:46:18.309+05:30At 21 weeks<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">In all the excitement of having a growing baby inside me, I missed to take pictures of my progress. I wish I had taken a few pictures in earlier months also. It would have made for my journal :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Here is my baby bump from 21weeks:</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-12120042191081798362013-11-11T20:24:00.001+05:302013-11-11T20:25:06.814+05:30Selfless Compassion (Credit to zenhabits.net)<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif";">Today was a not a very
good day. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif";">A good friend couple
is going through some difficult times. I have very good rapport with both
husband & wife and hence get to hear both side of the story during their
misunderstandings. Today also I heard about what happened between them and
realized that probably both of them are just sticking to their point without
trying to understand the other person's perspective. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif";">I came back home with
them in my thoughts and was going through my list of Blog reads when came up
with this very nice article on compassion.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif";">I realized how true
each word is. I am hoping to start practicing this a bit more. And I do hope
everyone in this world starts to practice this and we all will be in a happier
and better world:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif";"><a href="http://zenhabits.net/selfless/">http://zenhabits.net/selfless/</a></span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-64218668075267413932013-11-10T17:00:00.001+05:302013-11-10T17:00:31.919+05:30Thankful of the blessing showered on me!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The surreal feeling when I went through scanning.</span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The first scan at 7 weeks did not make much to me
as at that point in time you cannot make much from the scan picture.</span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;"> <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The scan at 12 weeks however was a different story
all together. The doctor showed us baby's body parts. And I was able to clearly
distinguish my baby's hands and the spine. </span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: small;"> </span></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Just the thought that I have a human life growing
inside me has given me an altogether new perspective to being a female.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: small;"> </span></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-IN; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">There were many days in past when I thought I would not be able see this
day in my lifetime. During all my visits to a doctor I would get to hear
the same statement that it is due to age factor that I am not able to conceive.
But today I feel thankful to destiny / nature / God that I have also been given
this wonderful feeling of being pregnant.</span></div>
Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-25327548915810400012013-11-09T12:59:00.001+05:302013-11-09T12:59:23.266+05:30The unexpected !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The unexpected happened! </span><o:p></o:p><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My husband and I had been deliberating on trying one more round of IVF.
However with my having gotten into a new job, I was struggling to find time for
anything beyond work. Moreover I was not sure if I would be able to get
5-10days of leave at a stretch for the procedure. </span><o:p></o:p><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">However I knew that having a baby was a definite priority and I
need to take the steps as early as possible. We went to meet our RE and
asked her opinion. I had gone there with the view that if we can start the
procedure in that particular cycle, we would go ahead (I was sure if I
deliberated the decision, I would want to postpone it until next month). This
was in the month of May. The doc completed the scan and did not have any
encouraging news. There was a cyst on one of the ovaries. Which meant we would
not see helpful results if we went ahead. She started me on DHEA and we decided
to come back the next month. The next month my husband had some long travel
plans and we thought it might get difficult if we were to start the procedure. So
it eventually fell for the July cycle where we were ready to jump on the
roller-coaster ride of a 3<sup>rd</sup> IVF try.</span><o:p></o:p><br />
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<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">But nature had a surprise for me. I was late for my July period
cycle. I am usually very regular and the initial 2-3 days delay I
attributed to stress / medicines. I obviously started to get hopeful and did a
HPT after about 6days of delay. And it came positive <u1:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"> </span></u1:p></span><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-no-proof: yes;"><!--[if gte vml 1]><v:shapetype
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unbelievable. I also went to the extent of speculating that the positive line
could be due to DHEA. I decided to do the blood test after another 5 days of
stopping the medicine. And the blood test also showed positive result. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">It was such a beautiful feeling to know that I have been given another
chance and that too without having to go through the IVF cycle. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"> </span></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">We met my gynaecologist who suggested we do the viability scan at about
7weeks. The waiting time in between was tensed and I was trying to prepare
myself for any kind of news. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The scan showed that the foetus had heartbeat!!! <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Gynaecologist also confirmed that it seemed to be normal and alright for
the weeks I was in. She prescribed progesterone & baby aspirin. </span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My husband suddenly started to get overprotective of me </span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: Wingdings; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-char-type: symbol; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-symbol-font-family: Wingdings;"><span style="mso-char-type: symbol; mso-symbol-font-family: Wingdings;">J</span></span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"> Started to drop me to office and pick me in evenings!<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"> </span></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">These are the times when you realize you are blessed and there is
someone overlooking you and taking care of your wishes / wants! It has been
such a humbling experience!<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"> </span></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I am now at 20 weeks and everything seems to be going fine.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I did have to go through all the tests / scans considering my age and
the risk I carry of being pregnant at this age. I keep praying everyday that it
continues well. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"> </span></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I will try to post more regularly with the updates on my pregnancy.</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-46623619149813763492013-09-08T19:57:00.000+05:302013-09-08T19:57:15.493+05:30I get knocked down… but I get up again...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Sitting at home for almost a year with the hope that my attempts at IVF would lead to a success was taking a toll at me. I was tired of answering the question of "when do you plan to get back to work" Or "Since you are not working why don't you have a baby" And I had no answers for them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Don't expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they've never had to walk your path!</span><br />
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I realised that my own self-esteem and self-worth was dipping low. <br />
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I used to cry a lot. One day I read somewhere "<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Crying isn't a sign of weakness. It's a sign of having tried too hard to be strong for too long." This seemed so true.</span><br />
</span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">During those says, my husband wiped my tears. Hugged me tight. He had watched me succeed in my work. Seen me fail in my attempts to conceive. He has been the one who cheered me on. Kept me going strong. My husband is a promise from God that I will have a friend forever.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">He has been telling me "You are good enough, smart enough, strong enough. Believe it."</span><br />
<br /> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Believing in yourself is the first secret to success.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I decided that I needed to get back to work to keep my sanity. I started to get interview calls and it made me busy and not think too much of the failure?</span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"><br />
One day got a call from an ex-colleague who mentioned about a opportunity with her organization. It seemed lucrative. I decided to give it a try. Had couple of discussions with them. It was an opportunity in the area of work where I was earlier working and wanted to build my career on.<br />
I took the job offer and joined them early February.<br />
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There are many things which are not and can never be explained. God decided to do certain things in a certain way and why He did this is a secret known only to Him.<br />
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The job kept me extremely busy during the initial days. So much so that I was thinking of work on weekends as well.<br />
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This job has been like a breath of fresh air after the long spell of uncertainty and despair.<br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-39405215549827142052012-11-12T23:49:00.005+05:302012-11-12T23:49:48.543+05:30Its Diwali !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Of all Indian festivals, I love Diwali. Its so full of light, colors, and there is goodness around everywhere.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I remember my childhood days where Diwali celebrations lasted for good 6 days and the preparations used to start much earlier. But now with everyone being forever busy, the celebrations do not go on this long. The day of Diwali is the highlight, when we worship Ganesh and Goddess Lakshmi. Apart from that 2 days before Diwali, are mostly just the basic rituals to be performed. </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I can see all houses lit up with beautiful and colorful lights. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Wishing everyone lots of love and prosperity.</span></div>
Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-68626111254205362632012-11-10T19:55:00.001+05:302012-11-10T19:55:41.084+05:30A tribute to women with resilience !<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Women are pillars of strength. And I saw it proven during these past months. During this time I have interacted with many women who are struggling or have struggled with infertility. Some have been lucky to be successful and some who are still struggling like me. One thing which stands common in all such women is their fortitude; their strength. Their capacity to bear, withstand the multiple trials that come their way is tremendous. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I am still struggling to gather my strength. But I look at all these other women and it gives me hope that I too shall be able to persevere and be able to face my life's trials with same endurance.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">There are many mornings which do not seem as bright as they used to be (atleast till few months back). Many days when all my conscious hours are clouded with the thought of infertility and what should I be doing now. During those days I read posts from some of the blogs that I follow and some of my pain is lifted off; its like having a friend right next to me holding my hand. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">With this post I just want to pay tribute to the fortitude and resilience of women.</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-62687764284362733892012-11-07T12:33:00.000+05:302012-11-07T14:52:41.684+05:30Analysis Paralysis<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Definition from wikipedia</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">The term "<b>analysis paralysis</b>" or "<b>paralysis of analysis</b>"
refers to over-analyzing (or over-thinking) a situation, or citing
sources, so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect
paralyzing the outcome. A decision can be treated as over-complicated,
with too many detailed options, so that a choice is never made, rather
than try something and change if a major problem arises. A person might
be seeking the optimal or "perfect" solution upfront, and fear making
any decision which could lead to erroneous results, when on the way to a
better solution.</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Have I reached such paralysis state. This year has been a year of such turmoil and changes that I have started to fear what else can be in store for me in the coming days. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This Sunday I realized that I have just been sitting, thinking, analyzing about what happened in these past months. And all this thinking is hampering me in taking any step forward. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I had decided to quit my job as it was becoming a bottleneck in my fertility treatments. It was done after much deliberation and had seemed the best & perfect plan. But looking back I think I could have found alternatives rather than leaving my work. I am still contemplating whether I should get back to a full time job or not. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I have also not been able to make any further decision on what I should do for my fertility issue. What alternative should I choose, which way should I move... Lately I am leaving just one day at a time without any thought of the future. But if I continue like this I will not achieve anything. And I do not want to have a regret in future of wasting my time. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I have formulated some ways for myself to move away from my inactivity in life and getting back into doing something constructive and meaningful:</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Plan, but do not try to plan too far into the future as that will definitely change. Plan for near future and make a pragmatic plan which lets you achieve your milestones. Planning is good but too much can be as crippling as not enough. </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Keep your momentum. Stay with the plan of what you are going to do and do it.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Set a deadline and force yourself to stick to it. More often than not, I used to shift the deadline for all my personal plans citing one or the other excuse on why I cant achieve it. No more! If I have to go to the bank for reviewing my investments, I will do it on the day I had planned and not postpone it for next day. If I want to educate myself on a topic, I will set a deadline by which I should have gained knowledge on it.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Force myself away from the distractions. One of my bad habits has been getting distracted too soon and too much. As soon as I sit down for some task, I tend to remember all other inconsequential chores that I should do before getting on with the task, resulting in the said task not getting done at all. </span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Has it helped me? I guess I am improving. I am a volunteer in couple of non-profit technology and management forums, and I had picked up some tasks there. I had been lingering on them for the past few weeks, not been able to make any progress. Since the past week, I have started to take small steps in getting those tasks done. And having set deadlines for what the tasks that I want to do on those forums, I am confident that they will be done.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Similarly I am sure one day I will be able to come to my decision on which path should I take on my "wanting to be a mother" journey. The first step is the one which takes most time and from then on you have to keep going.</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-71669288819430687032012-11-06T11:09:00.001+05:302012-11-06T11:10:43.203+05:30Creme de la Creme @ Stirrup Queens<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Since the time I got on the internet to research and read about fertility problems, I have come across many many blogs with courage stories from people who are struggling with infertility. These blogs have provided enormous support which no friend / family could have provided.</span></span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I myself got initiated into blogging, it is very therapeutic and you never know you might be helping someone else by your words, your strength.</span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Here is your chance to submit your favorite post to the 2012 Creme de la Creme list.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2012/10/the-2012-creme-de-la-creme-list-is-now-open-for-submissions/" target="_blank"><img alt="Creme" src="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/2012-Creme-Badge-3.png" /></a></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Read more details about it here: <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2012/10/the-2012-creme-de-la-creme-list-is-now-open-for-submissions/" target="_blank">The Best of the Adoption/Loss/Infertility Blogs of 2012</a></span></div>
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0Bangalore, Karnataka, India12.9715987 77.594562712.724026199999999 77.2787057 13.2191712 77.910419699999991tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-23142475939148338902012-11-03T20:23:00.002+05:302012-11-03T20:23:48.246+05:30Spending time in what I like...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This is what I have been occupied with in the past days. Had applied henna on my palms 2 days back and yesterday celebrated Karwachauth with all the traditional finery.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I love henna on my hands and this was just the occasion for me to indulge in it :-)</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-14481184564308138972012-10-29T16:42:00.001+05:302012-10-29T20:02:17.050+05:30Festival season is here !!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I love this time of the year, there is so much buzz around with festivities that start with </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Navratri" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;" target="_blank">Navratri</a><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"> and going on till </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diwali" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;" target="_blank">Diwali</a><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I am eagerly waiting for Diwali. Love the lights, happiness around this day. The markets are already abuzz with people doing their preparations for the festival.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">In my community we also celebrate <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karva_Chauth" target="_blank">Karwachauth</a>, it is the day when women pray for the well-being and prosperity of their husbands. Until I got married I used to wonder why should women fast & pray for their husbands and why shouldn't the husbands do the same. But now I know, husbands are there to take care of their wives all year round. And just so that they are capable of taking care of the wives, the wives pray to God to give lot of prosperity to husbands Otherwise what will happen to all my shopping bills ;-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This is the time of the year when I indulge myself with new clothes, sinful food and sweets without feeling guilty :-)</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-82742195249573672662012-10-24T21:02:00.001+05:302012-10-24T21:02:17.422+05:30Weekend break<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">We took a much needed break. Went away to <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kodagu_district" target="_blank">Coorg</a> for the weekend. It is about 250km from Bangalore and we started early morning so as to avoid the afternoon sun. However that day it was a very pleasant weather and I loved the cool fresh air. For the last 50kms or so you pass through the forest area and it is a very scenic route. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">The resort that we stayed in has river flowing on one side, paddy fields on one side, has coffee plantation on the other sides. As soon as you step out of your cottage all you see is greenery all around you. </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">The myriad chirping of birds! I could have sat there the entire day and listened to their songs! No place can bring you as much peace as in the lap of mother nature.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">We stayed there for 2 days and all we did was take walks in the serene surroundings, eat, sleep. On our way back we visited a temple which is dedicated to the Goddess. Its very peaceful near the temple; it being in the middle of nowhere. All you have around the temple is beautiful landscape.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">We had decided that we will not talk about our fertility issues during this break. We wanted this break to be just about the two of us having a relaxed and quiet time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">The trip has had a very calming effect on me and I feel all rejuvenated and ready to take on the world again :-)</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-37764248362176700672012-10-17T13:00:00.001+05:302012-10-17T17:10:16.523+05:30An appointment, a visit, and sadness again<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I went to visit my RE. Had been postponing this visit for past few weeks. Took appointments twice and cancelled as did not have the courage to go. Eventually yesterday I forced myself to visit her.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">We discussed my case at length. I tried to find all possible causes which could lead me to understand why I have not had success till now. I picked each investigation report, asking her to explain again to me what each test meant and what inference does she make from those values. I was hoping that somewhere she will say "your X hormone levels are not good and that is the reason" But none of that came across. Most of my reports have been normal, (or shall I say the values are normal as expected for my age group). </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Like all my previous visits to her, I was hoping to see some encouragement some positivity from the doctor... But none of that came in this visit. I don't blame her, she was just laying down the facts in front of me. I know the facts and the fact that my age has become the biggest bottleneck at this point in time. </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Never before have I felt so disappointed in getting old. If only I could turn the clock back!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I have hit a dead-end in this journey. Going back is not an option; the only option is to force myself to break one of the other walls and there try to find what I am desiring for. Should I start to think of donor egg, should I think of adoption, should I give up the thought of becoming a mother!!! Or should I again try IVF with my own eggs (would that be too foolish knowing the chances that I stand at my age). None of the choices are easy for me. I need help in deciding, but who can help me! Maybe a divine intervention to help me make the decision! I look up to you God to help me find some source of hope, source of strength, something to help break the walls where I can walk towards my dream !</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-32368113591783719432012-10-14T12:11:00.003+05:302012-10-14T12:23:10.134+05:30I fall, I cry And I get up again!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Moving On from the failure... And finding it extremely hard. Sometimes I feel that I am stuck in a revolving door, and I am just going round and round; not finding a way to break free! But I have to force myself to step out of it. Move on and move ahead! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Whenever you want to find out about something, plunge straight in. You cannot make a choice without feeling afraid. And whenever you make a new choice, you are afraid whether it is the right choice or not. Whether at some later point in time, you might realize that it was not the best decision made. But the choices or decisions that we make are made after weighing all the options and at that point in time that is the best decision one could have made. So even if they go wrong, take it in your stride and learn from it. The times when something goes wrong are teaching you something. I am learning to have more resilience, learned not to take everything for granted. Whatever you have are the things that you deserve, they have been tailored just for you. Be it happiness, be it pain. Accept what you get; Love what you get!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">There are many things which are not and can never be explained. God decided to do certain things in a certain way and why He did this is a secret known only to Him.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Few days back I read somewhere "Believing in yourself is the first secret to success." I am trying to keep my belief in myself alive! Not let the disappointments pull me down.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">What is most important is going after what I believe in. Is it that simple! It means taking risks, risking failure, risking disappointment, but never ceasing in my pursuit. As long as I keep going, I will triumph in the end. No one promised me a life without any struggle. I just pray I get strength to overcome the struggle. The strength to find peace and happiness with whatever I have and will have in life.</span></span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-41592629743746376472012-10-06T12:24:00.000+05:302012-11-05T11:14:54.181+05:30IVF Etiquette<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">A "<b><span style="color: blue;">Not</span></b>" to do list for anyone who has family / friend dealing with infertility.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Do not talk to the world about the couple's fertility issues. Respect couple's wish of secrecy about infertility - Yes, so I shared my problems with you but that does not mean you can talk to others about it. People dealing with fertility problems would not want the whole world to know. And if someone needs to know about it, let it come from the couple!</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">No unsolicited advice please - "Go on a holiday and you will come back pregnant; didn't person 'X' get pregnant on their 2nd honeymoon. Pray at such and such temple and you will be blessed with a baby. Ask your husband to try Shirshasana yoga!"... Yes, most of us must have heard all such advice. But there are times when what one needs is medical intervention and we have excellent doctors who can give advice for our situation. So please refrain from giving advice and i</span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">f we need your advice we will ask for it.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Don't suggest adoption - And please don't suggest giving up trying for a baby. Everyone knows about these options. Years ago (when I was not on this journey), a friend mentioned about another friend who had failed to get pregnant even after 8-9 years of marriage & trying to conceive, and one of my comments was "why don't they adopt." Now when I look back and think of that incident, I am glad that I was not saying this comment to the couple in question, only they know what all options they would have deliberated upon and what all efforts they must have made to have their baby. And if a couple wants to adopt they will, it is their choice and the decision has to come from within. At the end of the day, it is the couple's decision whether they want to try again or choose alternative options. If we need suggestions / help in deciding; we will ask for it.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">And please do not even try to console by mentioning the downside of being pregnant / having children. I have heard umpteen number of times "Good, that you don't have kids as they can be so naughty / your routine revolves around them / you cannot do things which you enjoyed and used to do when you did not have kids...." Hey, if it was as bad why did you have kids! I know you are just trying to console but please not with such comments.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Do not mention high profile people who went through infertility. Celebrities can afford to go through cycles after cycles of IVF which many cannot. They have lot of advantages; they can afford to have a dedicated medical professional just for themselves </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">which many of us cannot even think of. Whether a celebrity struggled with infertility or not, their situation is difference from many women.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Not wise to mention about examples where someone got success in their 6th or 7th IVF. Fertility treatments are costly and one has to be reasonable & realistic about how much can they stretch in this journey. Once while I was waiting for my turn to meet a doctor, I overheard the doctor mention to her assistant "Oh, but they both are working, why should they be worried about the treatment cost!" You can never know what all financial liabilities someone has. The couple would know to what extent can they go on their journey of trying assisted conception.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">After a failed cycle, do not console by saying "Fertility treatments are attached with a probability. Maybe not this time but next time!" I know friends / family want you to look at the bright side and not cry on the failed attempt. But at times like this I want to shout and say - "I did not want a next time, I wanted it this time."</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">For the couple going through fertility issues, it becomes a very difficult phase of life. and as their friends / family its your responsibility to help them sail through by just holding their hand and be there to support them if they ask you for any support. </span></div>
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-24521766846185086722012-10-04T10:32:00.002+05:302012-10-04T10:32:46.522+05:30How to Wait Less<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: blue;">This is a post from <a href="http://zenhabits.net/wait/" style="background-color: transparent;" target="_blank">Zenhabits</a></span></h4>
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‘How much of human life is lost in waiting?’ <strong>~Ralph Waldo Emerson</strong></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Post written by <a href="http://leobabauta.com/" style="border-color: rgb(192, 192, 192); border-style: none none solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; color: #303030; text-decoration: none;">Leo Babauta</a>.</span></h6>
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So much of our lives are spent waiting.</div>
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We wait in lines, we wait for the perfect person, we can’t wait for our dreams to come true, we look forward to the day when we have a better body and a better life, we look for ways to make our goals become reality someday soon.</div>
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We wait. That good life is coming, and we’ll be there soon.</div>
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What if we stopped waiting, stopped trying to make dreams and goals come true, stopped wishing and anticipating? What if that good life is already here, and the only way to live it is to stop looking forward and notice what we already have?</div>
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If you are waiting for good things to happen — or are actively trying to make something good come true — take a pause. Look at where you are right now, in life and physically in this moment. Where are you? Is it already great? If so, why are you looking towards the future, when you’re already there?</div>
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And if we don’t think where we are is already great, perhaps we’re not paying close enough attention.</div>
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Recently I had to drive a moving truck for six hours, and caught myself thinking, “I can’t wait until I’m there!” Of course, when I noticed that thought, I reminded myself: “You’re already there.”</div>
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Where I was — alone, in a truck, on a highway, in the middle of beautiful country — was already great. Perhaps my legs were tired, but that was an opportunity to feel my legs, when so many of us forget they’re there as we sit all day. It was a chance to remember that I’m alive, which we take for granted. We daily participate in the miracle of life, and to us it’s not only routine and dull, we often think it sucks.</div>
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My legs were tired, so I pulled over at a rest stop, stretched my legs, laid in the grass, stared up at the sky. My tired legs gave me this possibility, and so tired legs don’t suck, they are great.</div>
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The next time you find yourself waiting in traffic or in a line, and you’re thinking, “Can’t wait until I get there!” … remember that you are already in a place that’s great. Perhaps that’s in a car, alone, but what’s wrong with being alone? Can’t you listen to music, sing a tune you love, dance? Can’t you look outside at the sky and realize what greatness surrounds you? Can’t you talk to yourself and find out what great company you are?</div>
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If you’re in a line, aren’t you surrounded by fascinating human beings? What a great time to watch and listen and learn.</div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">The Tragedy of Goals</span></h3>
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We set goals, these little dreams of what the future will be like, and focus on them. Every day, we work on these goals, take a step closer to getting to that great future. When the goal is completed, yay! Now what? Next goal. And then the next. This kind of forward-looking thinking doesn’t end when you get to the goal, and never ends until you no longer have any life left, no future to look to.</div>
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But actually, it can end — right now. Stop looking to that goal, and look at where you are.</div>
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The goal might sound great: run a marathon, complete a project, get out of debt, get nice abs, make a million dollars. But it’s a fantasy, and when (if) that fantasy comes true, it won’t be what you imagined. It will feel like regular life, not some amazing new life that is different than the life you had. Life won’t be better, and never will be, until you stop wishing for this better life and realize that life is already incredible.</div>
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This life, right now, is already perfect! Enjoy it, and forget about those goals. Getting to them won’t be any better than the amazing life that’s right here, at this moment.</div>
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I get asked, “What do I do if I don’t have anything I want?” Well, stop wishing for those things. They aren’t better than what you already have, which is a ridiculously unlikely event called life.</div>
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So many people are waiting for their dream lover, that perfect person who is going to love them, make their life perfect.</div>
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That person may or may not show up, but the tragedy is not that you don’t have Mr. or Mrs. Dreamy … it’s that you’re waiting for happiness.</div>
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You don’t need another person to love you, to complete you, to make you happy. That person is already there, with you right now. (Spoiler alert: it’s you.)</div>
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You are the best company, the person who will always be around, the unconditional love you’re looking for. You just need to stop waiting for Dreamy McDreamerson, and look at yourself. Really notice yourself. Accept yourself. Love yourself, as you are, without wishing you were different.</div>
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This might take few tries, but try it right now. You might find that you’re the dreamy love of your life you’ve been waiting for.</div>
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How do you stop waiting for good things to come? Three things you can do right now, today:</div>
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<li style="color: #333333; line-height: 1.5em; padding: 0.2em 0px 0px;">Pay attention. Look at what’s around you right now. Look at yourself, and how great you are. If it doesn’t seem great, look closer.</li>
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<span style="color: blue;">And from today I decide to stop wishing constantly / stop waiting for my dream to come true. But I do not stop working towards my dream, I decide to enjoy and cherish what I have today. Tomorrow when I am given something else in my life, I will cherish that also with all my heart.</span></div>
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-55082630540572289952012-09-30T17:26:00.000+05:302012-10-06T13:36:57.790+05:30Brighter side of infertility and its journey<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">Gratitude about infertility... Sounds very ironical, when all I could feel was bitterness about my inability to become a mother. But this bitterness was not getting me anywhere, it was rather making me more alienated from all the good things. That was when I decided that from now on I will embrace my infertility and learn from it. Feel thankful that I am healthy, can cherish the beauty around me. Grateful of all my blessings.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">2. Empathy. Sometimes when you engross yourself in your pain and struggle too much, you fail to notice what people around you are going through. If you look around you, you will notice there are many others who might have gone through worse. It made my suffering much bearable. I realised that if I tried, I could give solace to others also despite my own pain.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">3. My love for my husband has gone up a level. He has been extremely supportive all this time. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">Helping me smile. Taking my real bad mood swings & sometimes harsh words in his stride and holding my hand.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">And very unlike him, he has learned the art of pampering me :-) Could I have ever imagined him getting me bed-tea !!! Not until we starting walking this path.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">1. I had been suffering from hair loss for quite some time. And during the times I was on progesterone I realized that my hair loss reduced significantly. So thanks to fertility treatment atleast I still have some hair on my head ;-)</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">(And yes, a bit of research on internet tells me that progesterone helps stop hair thinning.)</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">2. Finding ways of staying away from unsolicited advice. I am the kind of person who finds it very hard to say 'No', and the kind of person who finds it hard to be rude to someone even when they are saying things which are hurtful to you. Now when I talk to someone; I have learned the art of weaving a safe topic in my conversation, as soon as I realize the person would very soon bring up the talk of my getting pregnant. I am happily staying away from their advices of meeting Dr 'X' who is a great gynecologist Or starting to eat 'Y' as it supposed helped 'Z' get pregnant!</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">3. Being lazy guilt free :-) During both my IVF cycles, the two week wait has been the time when I tried to rest as much as I could. Before all this happened, if I took a nap in the afternoon, I would feel very guilty that I have wasted that hour sleeping where I could have done something better with my time. But now I am rid of that guilt, I have spent hours watching some videos / movies without thinking twice that I could possibly do something more constructive :-)</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">I have found ways of keeping my peace of mind.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #363535; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">Lastly, Believe in yourself, keep the faith. This too shall pass.</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-78001256289035055022012-09-24T16:05:00.000+05:302012-09-25T19:16:37.820+05:30My Life Mantras<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Some quotes that I keep going back to when I feel low:</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;">Be positive! Keep smiling. Your attitude will transfer your power to others.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Life does not give me the choice of what battle to fight, but just the choice to fight it or not! And I decide to fight the battle.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">N</span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">othing in this world happens by chance.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">People move in and out of each other’s lives, </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">and each leaves his mark on the other. </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">You find you are made up of bits and pieces of all who have touched your life, </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">and you are more because of it, </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">and you would be less if they had not touched you.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">The darkest hour of the night comes just before dawn. - Paulo Coelho</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">You have to go through the worst to get to the best.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">What is past is past. never go back. Not for excuses. Not for justification, not for happiness. ― Mario Puzo</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 24px; text-indent: 36pt;">Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality. - Earl Nightingale</span></li>
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-40430025297197394232012-09-16T14:44:00.001+05:302012-09-16T20:28:26.081+05:30Want to understand the reason ...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Its darkness again!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It was time for me to find out if my IVF #2 was successful or not. Did an HPT in the morning of d10 and it came negative! Had been having a bad feeling since past 3 days and realized that the bad feeling was turning into a reality. Still had hope that maybe the HCG levels are not good enough to be detected by the HPT, went to a nearby lab for blood test. It was tough to wait till evening when the report was to be ready. And as I was suspecting the blood test report also showed that I was not pregnant !</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">People say that "</span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Everything happens for a reason, Nothing happens without a reason!"</span><br />
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Trying to find reason behind all this. Is it that God is trying to tell me that my dream of wanting to become a mother cannot be fulfilled!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Excerpt from the book I was reading recently. Have been reading this particular portion many times to help me get over the pain and disappointment:</span><br />
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<i><span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">The alchemist answered. "What you still need to know is this: before a dream is </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">the lessons we've learned as we've moved toward that dream. That's the point at which </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">most people give up. It's the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon."</span></span></i><i><span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">"Every search begins with beginner's luck. And every search ends with the victor's being </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">severely tested."</span></span></i><i><span style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">The boy remembered an old proverb from his country. "It said that the darkest hour of the </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">night came just before the dawn."</span></span></i></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I had thought that my dawn was just arriving but it is not to be! I don't know how long can I endure being tested by my destiny.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">What is it that God wants me to learn from this???</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">How do I accept this failure and make myself look forward? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It is hard, very hard!</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-936169011496259712012-09-08T16:45:00.000+05:302012-09-08T16:45:16.182+05:30Hakuna Matata<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I am a sucker for animation movies and have been watching some of my all time favorites. What would the world be without Walt Disney Pictures, Pixar Movies!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Jungle Book, Lion King, Ratatouille, kung Fu Panda, </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Finding Nemo.... the list goes on and on.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">My first memories of animation movies are those of me sitting with my siblings and watching Jungle Book, those were the days when you got movies in a video cassette and needed a VCR to play them.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I still turn into a kid whenever I watch those animation movies... </span>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Most of these movies show the pure, unadulterated love in relationships (be it between friends, teacher-pupil, parent-child). True meaning of relationships and living upto those relationships, I wish everyone in this world followed the same principles and it would uncomplicate lot of things. Like I read in the newspaper quotes a couple of days back "<i>If girls were as nice to each other in real life as they are in Facebook comments, the world would be a different place to live</i>"! So true!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I feel so energized after watching these movies. Feel like dancing like Baloo, the bear from Jungle book OR sing Hakuna Matata like Pumba & Timon from Lion King. Can watch them as many times as anyone would ask me to !</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Follow your dreams and chase them with all your heart and your dreams will definitely be fulfilled. Follow your dreams and you will realize your destiny!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">BTW: </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Hakuna Matata, it means no worries. </span></div>
Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-73035122829336957692012-09-06T18:41:00.000+05:302012-09-06T18:45:32.174+05:30The dreaded 2 week wait<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">The agonizing 2 week wait has started and I keep thinking what do I do to keep myself sane!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I had been meaning to re-read one of Paolo Coelho's book, </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">have been saving that book for these 2 weeks. I am trying to go slow with it so that I can hang onto it till the end of my 2WW. Reading has always had a calming effect on me.</span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"> This particular book is a brilliant work to help me see the good things around, the positivity around me. It definitely has been working this time too :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Whenever I am in a gloomy mood, retail therapy has done wonders for me. So though I cannot go out for these initial few days, I can always do virtual window shopping! I have been visiting many of the online stores and putting jewelry, clothes, bags to my favorites list. Eventually most of it might end up just being on the favorites list, but who cares; at the moment I am enjoying it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">There have been few things which are not helping me though. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">As has it with Murphy's Law, my housemaid has fallen ill (arrrrrghhh) and just a couple of days back I had told her that I will need her help all the more during next few weeks. And just at this 2 weeks, she had to call in sick :-( Looking for a temp maid for a day or two is not an easy task. To think of it, I should stay as calm and relaxed specially now, hmmmmf.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Every few hours, I fight the urge to search the internet for interpretation of any change that I feel in my body. A slight pain here, a little spasm there... and I want to know what it could mean. But this time I have promised myself that I will not try to read the symptoms and just wait for the day when I am ready to know the result of my IVF. Till now I have been able to keep my promise, but controlling the urge of wanting to search the internet for my symptoms is still work in progress. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Writing too has been very helpful in keeping me calm. Its good to release your emotions. You cannot control your emotions but you can definitely learn to peacefully live with them; that way you are able to manage them very well. And that is what I am trying to do every day during these 2 weeks.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">And as someone said after ET, not much is in our hands, its nature that takes its course! So here I am at the mercy of nature and trying to make the path easier by keeping myself stress-free and happy!</span></div>
Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2Bangalore, Karnataka, India12.9715987 77.594562712.7226862 77.2787057 13.220511199999999 77.910419699999991tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-77269072575160115932012-09-04T20:31:00.001+05:302012-09-04T20:31:58.735+05:30Random thoughts<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Went for ET yesterday, and it felt as if I was going for some college exam result where you get the verdict of having passed or failed!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">A day before when I called my embryologist, I was told that at the moment both the embryos are looking good and only next day morning will we know if they reach blastocyst stage or not. I agonized trying to find more into what she told me (did she sound positive or was she apprehensive). In the end called my doctor to see if she had any more comforting words for me :-) I debated with her if it made it any better if we were to do the transfer that day. She convinced me that even if the transfer was to happen on day 4 and it were not to happen the chances are same as transfer on day 5; So we might as well wait for day 5 transfer where we can pick from the blastocyst embryos.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">The day of ET arrived; we waited to meet the doctor. She told us that one of the embryos reached the blastocyst stage but the other was not looking a good quality embie. Infact it seemed to have deteriorated. </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">After the initial excitement of getting 6 eggs, when I was told that we have only 1 embryo which reached Blastocyst stage and good enough to be transferred, I felt miserable (and that literally is an understatement of my feeling, I really can't say how disappointed I felt in myself).</span><br />
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">But looking at the brighter side, I have atleast 1 embryo which has sustained till Blastocyst and who knows might be able to sustain further in my uterus!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">The transfer went smooth and after resting there for couple of hours, I went back home to rest more. While resting </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I read and read about what really means blastocyst. What is the probability of a successful implantation with a blastocyst transfer Vs a 3d transfer? What are the chances of having a baby with blastocyst transfer? And many more such questions hounded me. Internet as they say is a boon and a bane depending on how you use it. Sometimes I feel reading too much about something can also cause you unnecessary worries. I should just believe in my doctor and in God. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>Was it wise for us to have decided to wait till the blastocyst stage, only time will tell.</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">My references on blastocyst:</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">1. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blastocyst">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blastocyst</a></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">2. There are many sites on blastocyst transfer and its success probabilities.</span><br />
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Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2Bangalore, Karnataka, India12.9715987 77.594562712.7226862 77.2787057 13.220511199999999 77.910419699999991tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-82681045223652048782012-09-01T19:13:00.002+05:302012-09-01T22:48:51.893+05:30How are my embryos doing<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I don't think I have done more research on any other topic than what I have been doing since past 8-9 months on IVF. And needless to say, with every research I do I learn something more on the topic of IVF. I can nowhere compare my knowledge to a fertility expert but I can definitely understand some of the jargon they say :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Today is day 3 after my egg retrieval. And everyday I have been calling my embryologist to know how my embryos were doing!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I searched on the internet to understand what is the average development cycle of embryos. Below is a chart from that research. It helps in knowing whether I am doing as per what prior studies indicate Or there is some exception in my case.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">While researching on this topic what I also chanced upon was many females stating that they conceived and had healthy pregnancy even when the embryo development was slower than what above chart says (ex: 4 cell embryo transferred on Day 3 resulted in a baby boy for someone). So what I mean here is that every embryo behaves different ( I assume it must be depending on egg quality, sperm quality, genetic code of these); So I will not be the best person to be judging on my embryos. I will leave it to my embryologist and my fertility expert. They are the best people to tell if it is all seeming normal or not.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">On the evening of my egg retrieval day, I spoke to the embryologist and was told that out </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">of 6 oocyts obtained from my ovaries, only 3 are mature eggs. And all 3 have fertilized.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Day 1: I was told that all the 3 embryos were looking good and we can hope that they keep on developing well. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Day 2: the embryologist told me that 2 of the embryos were developing well. One is 4-cell and other is 5-cell. However the 3rd one stopped growing. So now I am left with only 2 of the original count of 6 :-(</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Day 3: Today morning I got a call from my embryologist. She said that my embryos are now 10-cell & 11-cell in their development. I found this a very encouraging news considering that in 1st IVF cycle it was 2-cell day 2 transfer. She said I should talk to the doctor to discuss on when should we be doing the transfer.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I had a detailed discussion with the doctor on whether she should do the transfer now or wait for blastocyst stage.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">My prior research research on Blastocyst transfer indicated that it results in higher pregnancy success rates than a day 3 or day 4 transfer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I left the decision to my doctors advice on what should be done. She explained that if we wait, it may so happen that the embryos do not reach blastocyst stage. And if we do transfer </span><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">today, then also a similar possibility is there. We eventually decided to wait for blastocyst.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I think I will want to give a call tomorrow to my embryologist and see if the embryos reached the day4 stage or not. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Science still has not been able to understand human reproduction to its full. I presume its because all female bodies behave differently (after all we have unique genetic coding).</span><br />
<span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">All that I can do is stay positive and trust that whatever my doctor is doing is the best she (or any other fertility expert) could have done.</span></div>
Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2Bangalore, Karnataka, India12.9715987 77.594562712.7226862 77.2787057 13.220511199999999 77.910419699999991tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-45139778928983328312012-08-30T11:57:00.000+05:302012-08-31T19:10:05.442+05:30Thus starts my second IVF cycle<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">After unsuccessfully trying naturally for past 2 months, we decided that we should get onto our second IVF cycle at the earliest possible. After much deliberation, my husband and I decided to go to a different fertility clinic for our 2nd IVF try. We have been visiting this clinic and met the doctor multiple times for her to understand our history on this journey. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Finally the time arrived for me to visit my doctor and let her evaluate on how my ovaries were doing and what is the protocol to follow which will give me best possible chance.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">If you remember I had mentioned that I have low ovarian reserve and during 1st IVF cycle we did not see good results. My fertility expert decided not to give me high dosages of hormones as they would not make much of a difference on my low reserves. The best chance that I have is to stimulate whatever few follicles we see and hope to get eggs from them. And ofcourse with low dosage, I hope the side effects also are less.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">She suggested that we should try soft protocol (in medical terms: KATO protocol / mild IVF / mini IVF). What happens in this protocol is that doctors use milder stimulation; which studies have shown can result in higher quality eggs.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">We started the protocol which required me to take 150 iu of FSH hormone and clomid. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">On day 2 the baseline scan showed 5 average size & 2 small follicles on my left ovary And only 1 average size and 2 small follicles on right ovary.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">A repeat scan after 5 days of stimulation showed that out of the 6 decent sized follicles atleast 4 were growing as desired. Doctor prescribed another 5 days of stimulation. Under normal cases I have heard that doctors stimulate only for 9 days starting from day 2 and on day13 do the egg retrieval. However in my case the doctor added one more day of stimulation because the follicles were showing slow growth.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">In my previous IVF cycle, I had been taking the hormone shots in the morning. However, this time I took them at night. The doctor suggested taking them at night, maybe that way they are more effective! One point to keep in mind is that they should be given at almost the same time each day.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">In my previous IVF cycle, I was told I have 3 follicles on each ovary; however by the end of stimulation the follicles on the right ovary were not growing as expected So the doctor could get viable follicles only on left ovary. So during egg retrieval, the possibility was from 3 follicles only.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This time was much better. Even though the right ovary had only 1 good looking follicle, this one was growing well And the 5 good sized follicles on left ovary were also growing well. So it seemed like 100% improvement this time :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">After 10 days of stimulation, the scan showed that the follicles were reaching their optimum size. So I was prescribed Ovitrelle to be taken that night.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Eventually the day of egg retrieval approached. This is Day 14 of my cycle days. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Pre-OT preparation went smoothly. The nurse was a gentle one and did not hurt me much with the pricks :-)</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">In all my time in OT was just about 45 mins, during which I was sedated and the doctor picked eggs from my follicles.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">After recovering for an hour or two, I went to see the doctor and she told me that they got 6 oocyte out of which she is expecting that atleast 4 will be mature.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Can't explain how happy I feel. Compared to my 1st IVF cycle, this was such an improvement. I kept my fingers crossed for the best to happen this time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">While returning back, I was so happy that I told my husband that we should go out somewhere to eat. I also knew that next few weeks, I will be confined to home so make use of the opportunity while there is time :-)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I am expecting a call tomorrow from the embryologist on how my eggs have done.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Apprehensive / tensed / worried, all these words come to my mind about my state at this point in time.</span></div>
Mithyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05278576009368006527noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3444239488318348186.post-49309252652815890182012-08-28T19:56:00.003+05:302012-08-29T11:44:04.180+05:30Choosing the right fertility clinic !<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">One of the most crucial decision while taking fertility journey is choosing the fertility clinic. This will be the place where you will end up making frequent visits, so it better be a good and conducive place ;-) And hence its but prudent to do a thorough research before picking the place where you will be heading for advice on your fertility treatment. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I spent almost 2 months before I narrowed down to the place I wanted to go for my IVF cycle. Below are some of the criteria that I used in deciding my IVF clinic:</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>How good is the Doctor at listening?</b> Listening is an art (specially active listening). A very important characteristic of a good doctor (specially a fertility expert). Most of the people who go to a fertility expert are in low morale and low self-confidence. It is very important that the doctor gives you enough time to listen to all your fears, apprehensions, and is able to give you hope. One of the fertility experts that I met was very upfront in telling me that since I am more than 35years of age, I should also look at the option of donor egg. Now I must tell you that I do not have any so-called hormonal imbalance / tubes / ovary malfunction and I have seen ladies in their 40s having a healthy pregnancy. So such statements about donor eggs even before the doctor gave me a chance to use my own eggs, put me off completely from her. What hope could I get from such a person! Some of the fertility experts that I met were so positive in their discussions that even though they were saying that my chances were low as compared to others but it still gave me lot of hope. I do not want to give up before giving myself a fair chance on trying to get pregnant.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>How busy is the doctor?</b> If you are at a place which a choc-a-block full of people and the doctor is there only for an hour or two, she might not give you the due attention. While speaking to her, see if there is an urgency from her side to close the conversation and see you out of her room. I prefer a doctor who will have time for me (and I don't mean to say that she should sit with me the whole day but someone who makes you feel that at that moment you are the only person whom she is to treat)</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>What are the IVF protocols that the doctor follows</b> and on what basis does she decide which one is best for you. Is she ready to be a little experimental or does she follow everything by the book. I met one fertility expert who told me on day one what kind of medicines will she use on me (this was without even studying my investigation reports); that made me realize that I am a mere statistics for her! Whereas some of the experts that I met said that they can tell what protocol they plan to use after they see some of my reports. Also they mentioned that they keep changing the dosage of the hormones based on what how my body responds to it. This gave me lot of comfort cause as per the fertility experts admitting that science has still not understood female fertility completely so if the doctor is willing to study my response and then keep giving me whatever is the optimum level of hormones I might stand a better chance. I am not just another patient for her, I am someone whom she is paying due attention and time.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>Is the doctor reachable in case of any emergency </b>and or for ad-hoc advice. Check on the options of being able to reach the doctor via phone. Some of the doctors are happy to share their mobile numbers also. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>Distance from your place of stay</b> - During the IVF cycle, you will be needed to visit the clinic frequently (atleast 6-7 time during the entire IVF procedure). There are some clinics which need you to be at their place everyday during the 12-14 day procedure duration. So make sure you are prepared for the travel to and fro.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>How is the Support Staff? </b>See how the nurses are at the place. I always prefer a place where I see positivity around; it automatically puts you in a relaxed frame of mind which is very important when you are undergoing fertility treatment.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>Does the clinic specialize only in fertility OR are they also in general gynecology</b>. I visited couple of places where I found that they had both gynecology & fertility departments with common waiting area. In the first glance, when I saw many pregnant ladies sitting there it gave me the feeling that this place has huge success rate. But when I learned that most of these ladies were the ones who did not have any fertility issues and conceived naturally, it kind of put me off. I realized if I keep coming to this place, I might get more depressed thinking of all the people who very soon will be mothers BUT I will still be struggling with the hope of assisted conception. I dropped these places from my radar as I also doubted on their fertility expertise.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>Check on the cost of IVF at the clinic. </b>Some quote different price for IVF & ICSI and some have a common package even if you go for IVF rather than ICSI (which is a much advanced form of IVF). Make sure you understand what will be the additional costs as you go along the IVF path. Some places include the cost of all the scans and blood test Whereas some charge extra for it. Ask the clinics if they do any refund of the IVF package you paid, should there be a situation that the procedure has to be aborted mid-way. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>Check on the success rate of the clinic</b>. However I kept that as last of my evaluation parameter since IVF success is a very individualistic thing. Two people with same fertility problem, undergoing exactly same IVF protocol can have very different results. So for me knowing the success rate is a feel good factor for me but not the deciding criteria.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b>Lastly, see how comfortable you feel sitting in that place</b>. How comfortable you felt while talking to the doctor.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I visited many IVF centers and checked on all the above factors and in the end decided that place where I wanted to go. I do not know whether the decision is right or not But all the visits that I made to this clinic have re-emphasized that until now my decision has been good.</span></div>
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